- Don’t allow your initial response to control your actions.
- Take action to stay calm so that you can think rationally.
- Let your child know you are on his or her side and will do all you can to see that he or she is safe.
- Tell your child that reporting bullying was the right thing to do.
- Emphasize that he or she has the right to be safe at school.
Work with the school
- Contact your child’s teacher immediately to ensure that the situation is being monitored.
- Ask for advice about contacting the parents of the child who is engaging in the bullying behaviour.
- Check the school’s discipline plan for information.
- Ask about specific actions the school will take in this situation.
- Participate in the school’s action plan.
Make safety arrangements
- Tell your child not to go places alone and to tell an adult if someone is harassing him or her.
Help your child develop skills and confidence to stay safe and to respond assertively to bullying behaviour.
Practice effective responses.
- Recognize and validate these responses when you see your child use them.
- Never encourage a physical response toward harassment and bullying.
- Get information about effective responses your child can use to deal with bullying.
Affirm your child’s courage in telling you.
- Congratulate him or her on being willing to deal with harassing behaviour.
- Talk with your child about their feelings. Make it clear that you believe in your child’s ability to work through the problem.
- Follow through by periodically checking with the school to ensure the problem is resolved.